Blog Post – Dealing with Infidelity


Discovering that your partner has had an affair can be an incredibly painful and challenging experience. Whether you had your suspicions or it came completely out of the blue, coping with infidelity can be incredibly hard. Whether you decide to stay with your partner or leave, getting through it requires emotional strength, self-care, and thoughtful decision-making. Here are some suggestions to help you navigate through this difficult time:


Allow yourself time to grieve: Accepting that you are experiencing a significant loss and giving yourself permission to grieve is one of the most important things you can do. It’s normal to feel a wide range of emotions such as anger, sadness, rejection, betrayal, and confusion and allowing yourself time to process these feelings will help you come to terms with things. Talking helps so do seek support from friends, family, or a coach or therapist.


Take time for self-care: Prioritize your physical and emotional well-being during this difficult period. Engage in activities that bring you comfort and joy, such as exercise, spending time in nature, pursuing hobbies, or practising mindfulness and meditation. Taking care of yourself will help you build resilience and regain a sense of control. Having a friend who can motivate you to care for yourself can help.


Seek support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, a coach or a therapist who can provide a listening ear, guidance, practical advice and emotional support. Sharing your feelings with someone who can empathise with your situation can be invaluable in helping you process your emotions and gain perspective.


Communicate openly: When you feel ready, communicate with your partner about your feelings and the impact of their actions. This can be a difficult and emotional conversation for both of you, so choose an appropriate time and place to discuss your concerns and ask any questions you may have. Honest communication can help you gain clarity and determine the future of your relationship.

However, sometimes the unfaithful party finds the conversation too difficult to talk about and at this point, you may want to talk about the next steps and consider coaching or counselling either as a couple or individually. Coaching, counselling or therapy can be beneficial for both you and your partner. A trained therapist can help you navigate the complexities of the situation, facilitate communication, and assist in rebuilding trust or supporting you in parting ways depending on what’s right for you.


Take time to reflect: Consider what you want for yourself and your relationship. Reflect on your values, needs, and boundaries. It’s important to make decisions that align with your personal well-being and what feels right for you. Professional guidance can be helpful in making these choices.


Focus on personal growth: Use this challenging experience as an opportunity for personal growth and self-reflection. Explore ways to enhance your self-esteem, build resilience, and develop a stronger sense of self. Engage in activities that bring you fulfilment and invest in your own goals and aspirations.


Remember, healing from an affair takes time and every circumstance is different. There is no right or wrong way to cope and this can depend on how your partner responds to the infidelity and how it’s made you feel. Give yourself permission to feel and process your emotions at your own pace to gain a clearer picture of the situation and what’s right for you moving forward. Surround yourself with support, practice self-compassion, and know that you have the strength to move forward, whether that’s within the relationship or on a new path.


Professional support is always available and if you feel like you’d benefit from some coaching to help you through, book a 15-minute FREE discovery call to see how I can help empower you to get through.

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